Personality uniquely defines oneself; in other words, personality is the set of characteristics that distinctly identifies one person from another. One’s personality is usually set by experiences and knowledge that helps to deal with the matters that arise as life goes on. Personality development can lead to succeful outcomes in life. However, an abusive personality is a particular kind of personality that is damaging to others as well oneself.
As any other personality would display signs and characteristics of their type, an abusive personality reveals characteristics that are generally considered as warning signs. Although the display of these signs does not necessarily imply that one has an abusive personality, a greater number of warning signs suggest a greater inclination towards abusiveness. The specific traits that are displayed include, excessive jealousy, possessive and dominating behavior. It is not surprising that the abusive person will hide their dominative behavior in an act of love and concern which the victim will tend to fall for, but with the passing of time this behavior will escalate and become severe presenting dominance and control by threatening and influencing. A person with an abusive personality would also try to seclude the other party from any social fundamental interactions by inhibiting them to associate with friends or relatives.
Another distinctive characteristic of a person with an abusive personality is applying impractical expectations. There is always that person who wants to be the perfectionist that would go to the extent of blaming others for not meeting their expectations. This is definitely an irrational and impractical outlook of an abusive personality. Furthermore, the person will always deny responsibility for any violent or negative acts caused by him/her. “It wasn’t me!” would be a common phrase by the abuser because they are never to be blamed for any act of violence they may have intended. It is commonly stated that they were aggravated to act in such a manner by the victim.
abuse and personality would also obligate the person to be hypersensitive and therefore, they are easily offended or upset. As a result, relatively small day-to-day events may cause the person to lose his temper. Abrupt mood swings would also occur in a person with an abusive personality causing him/her to act as a very caring and loving person one moment and suddenly, turn into an aggressive person, the next. It is not strange for persons with an absuive personality to also verbally abuse their victims by frequently humiliating them.
There are conseling and guidance services that can help those with an abusive personality and assist them in overcoming it. It should be remembered that it is not a shame to seek help if you or someone you know has an abusive personality. No one wants to be a victim of an abuser and no one should be abusively treated.
