In part 1, we discussed how painful breakups can be. We go over the two most common roles that are played within the couple. We also go into understanding the loss of your beloved one as well as how to overcome it and place yourself in a position of saving a relationship. We conclude this article with some tips if you decide to give it a try once more and what you would need to consider.
In part 2, we talk about different points you need to consider if you have to make the decision of saving a relationship and get back together with your ex. We go over the emotional reasons for making such a decision and we ask you if you are actually prepared to carry on with this action. We also provide you a general idea of the other factors to keep in mind in case you decide to move on.
In this part 3, we will discuss these last topics a bit further in detail.
Allow for some time
Do not focus on the past; do focus, however, on the progress you are making as a whole. Do not pay attention to tiny little details but direct your efforts to your most relevant goals. You will have to give him/her time to think about it and it is important that you put yourself in his/her shoes.
It is good to have an opinion but the other also needs to be listened to and be appreciated.
On the other hand, just realize that if you have chosen to put yourself in a position of saving a relationship, allow him to take some time. Do not push him. If you are patient you can become friends, maybe not right away when both are most hurt but later on. When you have got friends, this could the perfect moment to talk things over and heal open wounds. You know that the final result does not entirely depend on you, so you need a fair time before deciding on moving on and renew direction.
If you do not succeed in saving a relationship, change direction
It could very well be that your partner is not willing to get back with you. It could also be that his/her fear does not let him/her to stay together with you. Sometimes love is simplyjust not enough, there may be another person, personal problems, job problems, etc.
Do not fight against all odds because it will tear you apart and will keep you emotionally connected to an unhealthy part of your life that will keep you from moving on. Work on your self-esteem and change gears and direction.
Give yourself a reasonable time and if you are unable of saving a relationship maybe it was the wrong decision and there is no chance of getting back together.
As said before, it is time to put things on the table and move on. Not always what you want is reachable and you must learn to accept it and carry on. Remain open and flexible, there is a brand new world of chances out there for you to choose from. Go ahead!
